We’ve all seen the Promposal videos floating around Facebook of the “popular” kids asking the children with some mental, or physical, disability to Prom and I guarantee that we’ve all thought “that was so nice of them”. I personally know a lot of people who have even said “I wish could do that, they’re my hero for not caring what other people think about their date choice”.
NO. NO. NO. NO. NO.
They are not a hero. They do not get a gold metal with their name engraved into it just because they were being a decent human being and asked their fellow classmate to Prom. They don’t get a statue of themselves put on display for all to see just because their date choice wasn’t who you thought it should be.
I was very good friends with a boy with Down Syndrome, one who was made fun of on a constant basis just for his extra chromosome by the very group of girls that made it their mission in life to take him to Prom. They called him awful names and said things like “don’t let him touch me, I don’t want to get the stupid” but acted like they were frigging angels sent from God Himself, and doing the world a favor by taking him to Prom.
The principal of the school at the time told them that they were a good group of girls and showed the kind of compassion that he longed to see in the world. Just because they asked him to Prom.
THEY TREATED HIM LIKE A NORMAL PERSON AND EVERYONE WAS TRIPPING OVER THEMSELVES TRYING TO GIVE THESE GIRLS “HERO OF THE YEAR” AWARDS AND IT’S NOT OKAY.
You are not a hero for showing someone else the same type of respect that people show you. You are not a hero for treating other people like they’re human beings instead of inconveniences. You are not a hero because you do something nice for once. You are not a hero, period end of story.